Child Arrangement Guide:

Putting Children First

Introduction

When parents separate or divorce, making decisions about where the children will live and how much time they’ll spend with each parent is often the most emotional and difficult part of the process. In UK family law, these decisions are called child arrangements.

At such a challenging time, having clear, compassionate guidance can make all the difference. This guide explains your options and how a McKenzie Friend can help you stay focused on what matters most—your child’s well-being.

What Are Child Arrangements?

Child arrangements set out:

  • Who the child lives with (residence)

  • How and when the child sees the other parent (contact)

  • How holidays, birthdays, and special occasions are shared

  • How decisions are made about schooling, health, and religion

These arrangements can be made privately, through mediation, or via a Child Arrangements Order from the Family Court if parents cannot agree.

Types of Contact

Child contact can take several forms:

  • Direct contact – In-person visits or overnight stays

  • Indirect contact – Phone calls, video chats, letters, or messages

  • Supervised contact – Visits in a contact centre when safety is a concern

  • Shared care – Where the child spends significant time with both parents

There is no legal presumption of 50/50 time, but courts do aim for meaningful involvement of both parents wherever possible.

How to Reach an Agreement

1. Private Agreement

Parents are encouraged to reach arrangements together without going to court. If agreed, this can be put into writing as a Parenting Plan, which is not legally binding but shows mutual commitment.

2. Mediation

If direct discussion is difficult, a neutral mediator can help. Mediation is confidential, voluntary, and often required before applying to court.

A McKenzie Friend can help you prepare for mediation and understand your rights before you agree to anything.

3. Court Application (Child Arrangements Order)

If no agreement can be reached, either parent can apply to the Family Court. The court’s primary focus is the child’s welfare, not parental rights.

The Court Process: Step by Step

  1. MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) – required before most court applications.

  2. C100 Application – used to apply for a Child Arrangements Order.

  3. Court Hearings – the court may hold multiple hearings to gather information.

  4. CAFCASS – may be involved to assess the child’s needs and speak with both parents.

  5. Final Order – the court issues a legally binding arrangement based on the child’s best interests.

The Welfare Checklist

Under Section 1 of the Children Act 1989, the court considers:

  • The child’s wishes and feelings (depending on age and understanding)

  • Physical, emotional, and educational needs

  • The impact of any change in circumstances

  • The ability of each parent to meet the child’s needs

  • Risk of harm

  • Background, culture, and family circumstances

How a McKenzie Friend Can Help

If you’re representing yourself in court or mediation, a McKenzie Friend can support you by:

  • Explaining the court process in plain English

  • Helping you draft your C100 application or response

  • Assisting with witness statements, evidence, and parenting plans

  • Attending court with you for moral support and guidance

  • Helping you remain calm and focused in emotionally charged situations

  • Offering ongoing support through email or phone between steps

We cannot speak on your behalf in court but can sit beside you, take notes, and quietly offer advice during proceedings—with the judge’s permission.

Common Scenarios We Support

  • Disagreements about living arrangements or school choices

  • One parent not returning the child as agreed

  • Allegations of domestic abuse or parental alienation

  • Grandparents or other family members seeking contact

  • Breach of existing contact agreements

  • Relocation of a child to another city or country

Tips for Positive Co-Parenting

  • Focus on your child’s needs, not past conflicts

  • Keep communication respectful and consistent

  • Stick to agreed routines and contact schedules

  • Be flexible and fair with holidays and special occasions

  • Involve children appropriately, but avoid making them choose

Conclusion

Child arrangements can be a deeply emotional issue, but with the right guidance, you can reach a solution that supports your child’s happiness, stability, and growth.

Whether you’re trying to create a parenting plan or preparing for court, our McKenzie Friend service is here to help you every step of the way—calmly, clearly, and affordably.

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